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For your convenience, you may download the Home Education Notification Form and Academic Assessment Report from our website. You may drop off or mail your Home Education Notification along with the required academic information to the Preble County ESC, 597 Hillcrest Drive, Eaton, Ohio 45320.

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You may also submit your Home Education Notification Form online by choosing the "For Students And Parents" section of this website and then choose Home Education Notifcation.

Description:

Peace Makers in Training is a 12 week classroom guidance curriculum that teaches students how to resolve personal conflicts in a respectful, safe manner and to enjoy the freedom of restored relationships. Student will develop positive character and ethical behaviors while living at peace with others. In this program, students are taught conflict management, conflict resolution, and conflict prevention.

Session Overview

Session 1: Conflict is a slippery slope.
  • There are three main responses to conflict.
    • Escape - Get away from conflict
      • Run Away from the person we are quarreling with
      • Blame Game - blame others for the problem, pretending we did nothing wrong
      • Denial - pretending the conflict does not exist
    • Attack - Used to put pressure on others to get our own way
      • Put Downs - Attack with harsh and cruel words
      • Gossip - Talk about others behind their backs to damage their reputation or get others on our side
      • Fight - Use physical force to get our way
    • Work-It-Out
      • Overlook an Offense - Deciding to forgive the wrong action against you
      • Talk-It-Out - Resolve the conflict by going directly to the other person to talk it out together
      • Coaching - Asking a wise person how to handle the conflict
      • Mediation - Ask someone to meet with both of you to help you talk together
      • Arbitration - Both parties talking to a person in authority who will decide a solution
Session 2: Selfishness can cause conflict.
  • Where does conflict start?
    • Selfish Desires
      • Pride
      • Envy
      • Greed
      • Selfishness
      • Fear of others
      • Self Pity
      • Laziness
      • Jealousy
    • Unselfish Desires
      • Love
      • Patience
      • Kindness
      • Gentleness
Session 3: Choices have consequences.
  • Good Choices = Good Consequences
  • Bad Choices = Bad Consequences
Session 4: Wise-way choices are better than my-way choices.
  • My-Way Choices
    • Selfish Desire
    • Bad Choice
    • Bad Consequence
    • Bad Feeling
  • Wise-Way Choices
    • Unselfish Desire
    • Good Choice
    • Good Consequence
    • Good Feeling
Session 5: The blame game makes conflict worse.
  • Blame
  • Cover Up
  • Make Excuses
  • Pretend
  • Lie
Session 6: Conflict is an opportunity.
  • Develop Character
    • Resist Negative Feelings
    • Respond Positively
    • Imitate others who show good character
  • Consider the needs of others
    • Love
    • Do Good
    • Encourage
    • Think
  • Grow to be better, not bitter
    • Recognize your need for help
    • Admit your wrongs
    • Practice new attitudes and actions
Session 7: The 5 A's can resolve conflict.
  • Admit what you did wrong
  • Apologize for how your choice affected someone else
  • Accept the consequences for your choices
  • Ask for forgiveness for what you have done wrong from the people you harmed
  • Alter your choices in the future
Session 8: Forgiveness is a choice.
  • Four false ideas
    • You need to feel like forgiving before you can really forgive
    • Forgiveness means forgetting about what someone did that hurt you
    • Forgiveness excuses the other person's harmful behavior
    • Forgiveness depends on getting a guarantee that someone won't do the same wrong thing again.
  • Four forgiveness promises
    • Good thought
    • Hurt you not
    • Gossip never
    • Friends forever
Session 9: It's never too late to start doing what's right.
  • Stop what you are doing wrong and think carefully about how to make wiser choices
  • Think about and list a variety of possible choices and their predictable consequences for the situation
  • Act on your plan, thinking about your desire to do what is right
  • Yea! - If your plan worked, celebrate
Session 10: Think before you speak.
  • Pay attention to verbal and nonverbal messages
    • Use "I" messages
  • What to communicate
    • Identify facts
    • Explain thoughts
    • Express Feelings
    • Discuss plans
    • Describe your needs or desires
    • Express thanks and appreciation
  • Confronting a person
    • Look at yourself before confronting
    • Overlook or confront?
    • Needs vs. desires vs. demands
Session 11: Respectful communication is more likely to be heard.
  • Four parts of communication
    • Respectful words
    • Respectful tone of voice
    • Respectful body language
    • Respectful listening
Session 12: A respectful appeal can prevent conflict.
  • When to appeal
    • You have made an unwise commitment
    • You have new information
    • You have been wrongly accused
    • You have a personal preference
    • You are concerned for someone else
  • How to make an appeal
    • Stop yourself from to choosing to respond in a way that will cause conflict
    • Think about why you want to appeal and what words to use
    • Appeal using "I" messages and questions to communicate facts, concerns, and preferences
    • Respond respectfully